Friday, July 15, 2011

Beach Day #2

We returned to Isle of Palms, this time with some friends. It is officially our favorite beach. Today was cloudy and windy, and we had to get out of the water for lighting, but any day at the beach is a great day. Plus it was never too hot. The water here in South Carolina is so warm it's awesome.

Little mermaid

Wipe out
Major wipe out
Seriously, dude, get up!
Mud bath
Happy family

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Racism

Since starting my blog, I don't write in my journal enough. But sometimes I put something in my journal that I'm not sure I want out for public consumption. I wrote this a couple days ago, but decided I'd go ahead and share it. I'm using a lot of generalities and realize that what I'm saying doesn't apply to all or even most people. I have a hard time sharing my feelings on race because I feel that anything I say will be harshly criticized. However, it's part of my life now and staying quiet about it doesn't make that go away.

Adopting black children has not made me an expert on African American culture, racism, prejudice, ethnic hair or anything else. It has opened my eyes to a whole new world and made me sensitive to things that I may have never noticed before. In my humble opinion, I think there is a lot to be done on both sides of the black/white race line. For example, whites need to be aware that White Prejudice is real. It may not be intentional, but it exists. It's completely different from racism. Someday I'll do a post just about this. On the other hand, black people need to realize that many white people are trying to overcome the past and bridge the gap, but shouldn't be held accountable for things that happened in the past and that are outside their realm of control. Walking around with a chip on the shoulder doesn't help anyone.

I'm grateful that my personal experience for the most part has been with people trying to reach out and understand one another. I like what Will Smith said in an interview, "You know guys, I really don't think America is a racist nation. I know that I feel like that sometimes, but I just don't believe that. There are racist people who live there, but I don't think America as a whole is a racist nation." I agree with that. Unfortunately, sometimes those racist people have loud voices.

Not long ago, six black teenagers (aged 13 to 19) jumped an 18-year-old white kid here in Columbia and beat him almost to death. The crime was horrific and very brutal. The police said it wasn't a hate crime and that has caused a bit of an uproar. The message boards and reactions are full of irate people who say that if it had been white kids jumping a black kid, it would have been classified a hate crime.

That may be true, but the thing that has bothered me the most and that I can't get out of my head is the racist nature of the comments after the online articles. They use the "n" world and terms like "monkey" and "big lips." It makes me cringe. I know my children don't have big lips (not that it would matter if they did) or look like monkeys, but I don't want them to ever read something mean, hateful and spiteful like that. Sadly, I know the day will probably come when they will. It has shaken me up to know that racism like that is simmering under the surface nearby. I know people that write on message boards are usually wacko anyway, but it's still been eating at me. It's caused me to rethink whether or not I want to stay in South Carolina. I should note that we have personally received nothing but kind treatment from people here in the South, regardless of race.

Maybe we have this kind of racism in Utah too, but it's not as obvious. In Utah it's more a matter of ignorance. A matter of making light of things that are hurtful and thinking that others shouldn't be hurt by those things rather than acknowledging that a change may be in order. That's bad too.

I wish I could protect my kids from hurt. I hope the foundation of love and the gospel will be enough to get them through painful times. I especially worry about my cute, sweet Jalen. I hope when he gets a crush on a little girl, her parents will let him date her. I hope he'll never get pulled over by a police officer just because he's black.

Maybe I need to do research on where the best place is to live for racial integration. Or maybe I need to pray for the millennium to come faster.

My children are so beautiful - so amazing. I hope they will always believe that.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Family Scripture Study

We try to read scriptures with our kids almost every day. Most days it's a disaster. Even so, it seems that some things do get through. I hope this doesn't seem disrespectful because we use the name of Christ. It is not intended that way at all.

This is a long video, but I love it!

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Baseball on the 4th of July

I think few things are more American than a baseball game. We decided to celebrate the 4th of July with some good friends at a baseball game, complete with fireworks. Here in Columbia we have a collegiate team (college players in the off season) called the Blowfish (after Hootie of Hootie and the Blowfish fame, a local celebrity).

This little friend of Baylie's is the artist of the bag mentioned in my earlier blog post.

The kids started out very enthusiastic.

Baylie and her friends even got to ride in an on-field parade.

However, their enthusiasm did wane, to the point that Baylie said, "I hate this game!" (This coming from the girl who catches me every time I use that no-no word.)

We stuck it out to the exciting conclusion of a win in the bottom of the 9th inning. Reactions to the fireworks show were mixed (it was an awesome show, but like most kids, ours weren't thrilled with the noise).

But they were smiling for the post-game dugout shot.

We also got to pose for pictures with some of the beams from the second World Trade Center tower from Ground Zero. These beams are being placed as a memorial monument to first responders from The Midlands (central South Carolina).

It was a very relaxing and fun 4th of July!

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Millford Plantation

To kick off our 4th of July weekend, we (I) decided to visit another plantation. Milford plantation looks like something you would read about in a historical novel or see in Gone With the Wind. Unlike many of the plantations in South Carolina, Milford was not destroyed by Sherman's army. The story of how it was preserved is pretty amazing.

On what turned out to be the final day of the war before Lee's surrender, Northern troops, under the command of Brig. General Edward Elmer Potter arrived at Millford. Governor Manning (read more about him below) met the Yankee general at the front door and observed: "Well, the house was built by a Potter (Nathaniel Potter, the architect) and it looks as though it will be destroyed by a Potter." General Potter responded: "No, you are protected. Nathaniel Potter was my brother."

But let's start at the beginning. The plantation is located about an hour southeast of Columbia, not far from the Kensington Plantation we visited over Spring Break. We drove through a state forest to get to the plantation. In the middle of the forest, we were surprised to see that there was a section set aside as a military air-to-ground bombing site. Here's to hoping those bomber pilots have good aim!

As always when we visit these plantations, I can't help but think of my kids and what their life could have been like had they been born in this area just a few generations back. I looked back at them traveling in relative comfort, including air conditioning, and imagined other children brought to this area in chains after being torn from their mothers. Slavery is not as far in the past as I sometimes tend to think. (I also noted the irony of our visiting a place that denied freedom during a weekend when we celebrate freedom.) I'm honestly not sure why I am so fascinated by plantations, but I am.

The drive to Millford is a very bumpy dirt road.

The plantation is surrounded by wide sweeping lawns and trees covered in Spanish Moss. From what I have learned, during the Civil War period, the plantations would not have had grass and trees. They had hard dirt lawns that were swept smooth and instead of trees there were fields and fields of crops. The gentleman who gave us our tour (who was awesome) said that back in its heyday, you could ride an entire day on horseback and still be on the Millford plantation.

Millford was built by John Laurence Manning, a signer of the Ordinance of Secession of South Carolina. He was the son of a governor of South Carolina and was later governor himself. He was married to Susan Frances Hampton, daughter of Revolutionary War hero Wade Hampton, reputed to have been the richest man in the South. Millford is built on land inherited by John Manning from his maternal Richardson grandparents, which was originally set up as a land grant from England. However, most of the funds for construction probably came from his wife's inheritance. The couple was only 22 when they started building this impressive residence. Susan would die in childbirth with her third child before reaching her 30th birthday.

Milford has two small, but beautiful gardens, one on each side of the home.

The home is considered by some to be the finest example of Greek Revival residential architecture in America. It has massive Corinthian columns, high ceilings, floor to ceiling windows (some are breezeways) and a domed rotunda capping off a spiral staircase. It is really impressive.

View from the rear that shows the rotunda. To the right you can see what was originally the laundry. The kitchen was on the left.

There are some new additions like this little castle on a pond. Baylie was fascinated by it.

After the tour, the kids kicked back and relaxed in the shade.

On the way out, Jalen had fun saying "ahhhh" over the bumpy road because it made his voice vibrate.

Across the road from the path that leads to the plantation is a monument to the grandfather of John Lawrence Manning. I later found out that John, his father and grandfather are all buried in this church courtyard. Unfortunately, I didn't know it at the time, so I didn't find their headstones.

In researching, I found an interesting story about General Richardson.

General Richardson died during the war and was laid to rest on the grounds of his plantation. After Banastre Tarleton gave up his attempt to catch the Swamp Fox (Francis Marion), he paid a visit to Richardson's plantation. Highly angered that General Richardson's widow had enabled the Swamp Fox to escape by alerting him to the approach of the British cavalrymen, Tarleton sought retribution. He directed his troopers to dig up the body of General Richardson, who had been buried six weeks earlier. When asked the reason behind this ghoulish act, Tarleton stated that he wanted to "look upon the face of such a brave man." The Richardson family was forced to witness the hideous spectacle.

Driving to and from the plantation, there were other country homes that I found beautiful.

We saw a sign saying there was a historical church just a mile away, so we decided to find it. (David thinks I need a bumper sticker that says 'I brake for historical signs.') The original church was built in the 1700's. The current building is constructed of rammed earth. (The parish house mentioned on the sign is not the church.)

As we headed back to the main road, we learned that we were actually on a very historic road - a road upon which soldiers in both the Revolutionary and Civil war marched.

Apparently there are several signs dedicated to the march of General Potter. This is one we found. I haven't been able to find information on the rest.

One of the churches we passed had designated parking spaces for important people like the bishop and "the musician." This musician is definitely reserved - for me!

Two years ago David and I signed a pact not to eat Kentucky Fried Chicken (it was a school project for his cousin) because of how the chickens they use are treated. We broke the pact because we figured two years was a significant commitment, plus we had 2 for 1, 5 dollar meal deals. (The kids look way more enthusiastic here than they actually were, and I doubt I'll be eating there again in the near future - it was grosser than I remembered.)

Okay, but seriously, my kids are so stinking cute this could be a print ad for KFC!

Monday we plan to celebrate the 4th by going to a baseball game with some good friends. What could be better - baseball and fireworks! Hope you all (or should I just cave and say ya'all?) have a wonderful holiday.

Note: For those of you wanting to visit Millford, it is only open for tours the first Saturday of the month, except for January when it is closed and April when it is open every Saturday. Always call to reserve a time. For more info, go here.

Friday, July 1, 2011

First Mohawk

Unfortunately the camera battery is dead, so we could only take pictures with the phone. Jalen looks awesome!