Home Study

Yesterday we had our latest home study. I think that's our fifth one so far. A home study is an interesting thing. Someone who barely knows you comes in to your house and asks you personal questions to determine if you'll be a fit parent. I always find it ironic that to adopt you have to be inspected, investigated, take classes, get physicals and prove you're gainfully employed, but to have a biological baby, you just have to get pregnant.

Even the term "home study" is interesting. It's not really something you can study for and sometimes they don't even look too closely at the home. Sometimes we scrub everything from top to bottom and then they don't look at the house much at all. At least everything get's cleaned! So far we've passed them all, so I guess that's a good thing.

Now we're just back in waiting mode. Hopefully everything goes smoothly and a month or so from now we'll finally be parents!

Thoughts about a birth mother

Last night I couldn't sleep as I thought about this little baby that may become part of our family. I thought a lot about the birth mother. Is she comfortable with her decision? Does she have second thoughts? Is she taking good care of herself? What do her other children (she has several) think about their baby going to another family? I pray for her and hope she is okay.

I also can't help but wonder about the baby. What will the baby look like? Will he/she like sports? Will he/she like music? Will he/she like me? Will I be able to answer the questions that may follow? Am I really ready to be a mom?

I'm glad we only have a month to think about it. I think any longer than that would be too hard to wait.

From Infertility to Adoption

We probably should have started this blog a long time ago to track our journey from infertility to adoption. We started trying to have a baby right after we got married. After a miscarriage and years of infertility treatments, which as anyone who has been there knows, is very emotional, we are looking forward to adopting.

We have been trying to adopt for about three years. We started wtih LDS Family Services, but that has been very frustrating and unfruitful. A few months ago we started with a new agency, Heart and Soul adoptions. We got a call a couple of weeks ago telling us they had a baby for us. We were through the roof excited, ran out and bought last-minute supplies, packed our bags and only then found out we didn't have all our paperwork ready. It was devastating. In the end, it was for the best since the birth father later changed his mind.

Today we received another call. We have been matched with a birth mother that should deliver around March 20. We're excited and nervous. It's hard not to get our hopes up, but we also don't want to get heartbroken again. We still don't know if the baby is a girl or a boy - and actually we'll love either one!

The Batchelors

We've been married for five years and eight months. We love being married. We're not sure our lives are exciting enough for a blog, but think we may have some original things to share. I'm 12 years older than David which in and of itself makes us original. Plus I'm the one into sports and he's the one into music which is also a little unusual.

David is getting his Masters of Music Composition at BYU and I work part-time from home. His schedule is so busy now that we don't have as much time together as we'd like. With the time we do have, we love to play games, travel and hang out with family.
We are hoping to adopt a baby in the near future and hope this blog will be an interesting outlet for this life-changing experience.