Monday, October 10, 2011

Pumpkin Carving

I always think pumpkin carving sounds like so much fun, but then when we actually get to the carving, I remember how gross the whole thing is. Fortunately, Baylie and her daddy think it's great.


This year we invited the missionaries to join us. They were very enthusiastic.


Jalen was mostly excited about the cheesecake that Elder Delai made for us. He ate his, half of Baylie's, parts of mine and then tried to beg some from Elder Thayne. Somehow I missed the shot of his extremely messy face or the one with his pleading look (I have to post a picture of that look sometime because it's hilarious.)


The missionaries loved their pumpkins (you can see Jalen's cheesecake here).



David and Baylie carved their pumpkin. I painted mine. I call it "Ode to Picasso." Jalen was too busy eating to bother with pumpkins.

Saturday, October 8, 2011

I am NOT a fan of Extreme Couponing

I love to coupon shop. In fact, I just updated my blog post on Couponing 101. However, I am NOT a fan of extreme couponing. I was going to do a lengthy post on it, but I found an awesome blog that already addresses everything I wanted to say. So I'll just summarize and then link over to her blog.
  • I don't think the store should owe you money. Just grab something that costs the same as your overage amount.
  • Only buy what you can realistically use. I'm all for buying enough to have an emergency supply of food, but don't buy more than what you can use. Let other people have some as well. For example, I probably have 20 tubes of toothpaste in my cupboard right now. I got most of them for 25 cents or less. Even if they are available for free, I'm not going to be buying any for a while.
  • If you get something for free, don't turn around and sell it to someone else.
I could go on, but instead, read this. At the end of her post, she lists some additional links that are also great.

People that abuse couponing, make me want to do this:

Coupons 101 - Updated October 7, 2011

This is a modification of my original post of February 4. My couponing has changed a lot since then.

Serious couponing takes time. I spend 2-4 hours a week clipping and organizing coupons and 1-2 hours a week shopping. This is more time than I used to spend planning and shopping, but less time than I spent when I first started couponing. While it is time consuming, I figure this is how I can contribute to my family's income. I usually have Baylie work on coloring or cutting while I'm doing coupons, so we're at the table together. She loves to cut up Toys R Us brochures or other catalogs/brochures so she feels like she is doing the same thing as me.

This is how I USED TO organize my coupons.

I have learned that this is not the way to effectively coupon. It is far too time consuming. I’m able to get rid of this because of the way the coupon site I use does coupons – it might not work with other coupon sites. (More details on this below.)

This is how I organize my coupons now.


I collect the inserts from the Sunday paper and put them in an expandable file, organized by week. I write the date on the front of each insert. Each week I throw out the oldest insert and replace it with the newest. If there are any coupons that are still valid in the oldest insert, I clip them out and put them in a smaller holder.


I'm sure you know that you can get coupons out of the Sunday paper. Since we are on a very limited income, a girlfriend and I go to a neighborhood on their recycling day and get the coupons from the Sunday papers that are being recycled. We call it dumpster diving.


Another place for coupons is "All You" magazine. You can purchase this monthly or just subscribe here. There are different versions of the magazine, so be sure to get the one that has the coupons. The magazine also has a monthly sweepstakes and a daily e-mail with a free sample you can request. (Note that the sample usually requires you to sign up for an e-mail. I sign up for everything now because it just means more coupons. You may want to get a secondary e-mail address just for coupons.)

As you shop, look for coupon dispensers in the grocery aisles (coupon etiquette suggests that you only take two of each coupon). Also keep an eye out for peel away coupons that are on merchandise. This happens a lot in the frozen food section. Only peel away coupons from products that you purchase.

You can also print coupons. The websites I use most frequently are coupons.com and grocerysmarts.com. You can try different zip codes or states to get different coupons. Most of the coupons will be the same, but sometimes you'll get variations. Be cautious with printing coupons because you'll spend a lot on toner which can offset your grocery savings. I don’t usually print a coupon until I plan my shopping when I realize that I’m actually going to buy that item. There are a few exceptions (any time there is a coupon for canned or frozen fruit/veggies, I print it because they go quickly). There is usually a limit to how many coupons a manufacturer allows to be printed. You should be able to print two copies of any particular coupon – you have to print them, you can’t copy them.

In addition many companies have coupons available on their own websites. For example, not long ago I needed soy sauce, but didn't have a coupon for it. I Googled "Kikkoman" and ended up with coupons that gave me $1 off Kikkoman, free eggs when I purchased a bottle of Kikkoman and free Ponzu sauce when I purchased Kikkoman. I was able to use all three coupons at once. The website I use tells me where to find all the coupons, so all the work is done for me (which is why I no longer use the origami-style notebook system).

Grocery stores may also have their own coupons. More about that below.

When I first started coupon shopping, I went to several stores. Now I am primarily shopping at one grocery store - Publix, and one drugstore - CVS. If there's something amazing at another store, then I will get it. (For example, meat and produce are usually less expensive at another grocery store.) Although something may be on sale at another store and not at your primary grocery store, it will eventually be on sale at your store too. (Items tend to go on sale in six-week cycles.) I seldom shop at Wal Mart. They don’t double coupons (although I’ve heard there’s an exception in Utah County) and they aren’t very coupon friendly.

Now here are some tips in no particular order. I'm basing these on shopping in South Carolina, but I'm sure similar tips apply to wherever you live.

Join any loyalty programs available. (Walgreens and Publix do not have loyalty programs). There are also programs online where you can enter all of your loyalty cards and earn money or coupons.

Doubling coupons – Kroger and Publix double coupons up to 50 cents. Bi-Lo doubles up to 60 cents. (You can check a store's ad to see if they double coupons.) What that means is that if you have a 50 cent coupon, you will actually get $1 off. If you have a 75 cent coupon, you'll just get the 75 cents. Wal Mart, Target and drugstores don't double coupons.

Watch for buy one/get one free sales for items where you have coupons. Even if an item is free, you can use a coupon for it. For example, if there is a buy one/get one free promotion and you have two coupons for that item, you can use both of them since you are getting two items. Let's say something costs $2 and is on a B1/G1 sale. You have two 50 cent coupons. Each of then will double to $1. You'll end up getting both items for free! Even if you only have one 50 cent coupon, you'll double it and pay only $1 for the two items, which means you pay 50 cents per item when normally it would have been $2.

Some stores have their own coupons. If they do, you can combine a store coupon with a manufacturer coupon. Store coupons do not double. These coupons may be sent in the mail, displayed in the store or found at the customer service counter. Some stores will accept competitor’s coupons. You can ask for specifics. For example, Kroger will accept coupons from other grocery stores like Publix, but they won't accept coupons from stores like Target or Walgreens.

Keep in mind that just because you print a coupon on a store's website, doesn't mean that it's a store coupon. Look at the bar code on the coupon. If it starts with a 5 or a 9, it is a manufacturer coupon even if it has a store name on it. Coupons that start with 5 can be doubled, coupons that start with 9 cannot. Even if a coupon states it cannot be doubled, a store that doubles will usually double it if it starts with a 5.


Some stores have electronic manufacturer or store coupons. This can be great and convenient, but be careful because sometimes these manufacturer coupons can’t be doubled. (For example, Kroger electronic coupons do not double.)

Pay attention to your receipts and catalinas - the little tags that come out with your receipt - for coupons or money credit.

If you have a store coupon and a manufacturer coupon for the same item, you can use both. For example, if you have a 50 cent manufacturer coupon and a 50 cent Publix coupon. You'll end up getting $1.50 off the item. (This gets tricky at Walgreens because even though they’ll take both coupons, you have to purchase at least as many items as you have coupons, so you might have to buy something cheap to have enough items.)

Look for clearance items. Many stores will have a section with items that are marked way down. If you have a coupon on top of the clearance price, you can make some real deals. When buying clearance items, be sure to watch for expiration dates. Many times an item is on clearance because it's about to expire. That doesn't mean you shouldn't buy it, but you should use it quickly. Also pay attention to the expiration dates on your coupons.

Give up brand loyalty. This can be really hard to do, but is important to successful saving. For example, I love Gain laundry detergent. When it goes on sale and I have a coupon, I still buy it. However, I now use other detergents like All or Extra. There may be a few cases where the brand item is worth the extra cost, but those are probably the exception.

Shop before you meal plan instead of vice versa. I used to plan my meals and then shop for what I needed. Now I shop what's on sale and plan my meals based on what is in my pantry.

Buy things you wouldn’t normally buy and discover new products. I had always just used Minute Rice or Uncle Ben's or something familiar. However, I often get Mahatma coupons and can get the rice for free. I've tried new flavors and found I really like them. My family has really enjoyed discovering new products. Many of these products are things that were too expensive for us to buy before.
Check prices at your local drugstore. The drugstore often has sales on common products such as dish soap, canned goods, diapers as well as health and beauty products. It’s surprising how many things you can get for free at the drug store. Become familiar with the loyalty programs and how they work.

Buying in bulk isn’t necessarily better. Getting something for free or almost free will always be the best deal.
Some things will always be too expensive. Just because you have a coupon, doesn't mean it's a good deal. Couponing gives you a rush and sometimes you have to be disciplined not to buy something.

Typically sales and coupons run in 6-week cycles. So if you need something, but it isn't urgent, be patient. It will probably go on sale eventually.

Watch for rebates. One time I purchased a bottle of Bufferin (a pain reliever I don't usually use). It was $2 and I had a $2 coupon, so I got it for free. Plus there was a $2 rebate, so I actually got paid to buy it!

There are TONS of couponing blogs out there. To me, many of them are overwhelming. You should be able to find a good one for your area. My favorite one is Southern Savers. It basically does all the work for me. In addition to the individual store tabs I use, there are also tabs for "$1 or Less Grocery Deals," which like it says will tell you all the things you can get for a dollar or less at the local stores. When we’re really stretched, I just make my grocery list from these items. They also have the "Need it Now" tab, which will list some common items and tell you which store has it for the best price. I use this a lot for buying meat.

 

If possible, attend a coupon workshop in your area. The person who writes your local blog may even give workshops. For those of you in the South, Southern Savers is having a free online workshop next week. Go here for information.

Get used to having really long grocery receipts. This one was as long as Baylie!


Here are my results from last week. I got $136.86 worth of groceries for $56.01 and made $3.62 at the drug store.


Because I am a control freak and an Excel fanatic, I use a spreadsheet that details what I'm buying, if I have a store coupon or manufacturer coupon, and what the item and total cost will be. I total up what my final bill should be so I'm not surprised at checkout and so I can catch mistakes. It's amazing how often you catch a mistake or find out that something is not ringing up as expected.



So far this year, we have saved almost $600 by using coupons. One of my favorite things about coupon shopping is that I have been able to build up some excess food storage. In addition to a full pantry and a cupboard full of health and beauty supplies, we also have a closet full of additional food. I think we have about a three-month supply. It has been really easy to build up, particularly when there are B1/G1 sales. We use one and store one.


Couponing is actually fun, and a little addictive. I hope you’ll give it a try! If you're still with me on this blog post, you must be serious, so you may want to head to the Southern Savers "Learn to Coupon" page and learn from a pro.

Read here for my opinion about Extreme Couponing.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Kid Videos

Ride 'em cowboy!

Baylie LOVES to dance. She does not get this from me. The leotard is mine, but my dancing career came to an early halt when I was forced to be "H is for hippopotamus" when I wanted to be "F is for feather" in the alphabet song.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

We're Back!

Well, I didn't open my facebook page or my blog for the month of September. I really didn't miss facebook - except when I wanted to print a coupon that could only be found there. I did, however, miss my blog. I didn't write in my journal much during the month, which goes to show that I need this blog in order to keep up with our family history. My blog didn't get many hits, which goes to show that I'm pretty much the only one that reads it - so I'm not going to make it private. I don't think it's necessary.

And here's a recap of what we did this month.

Bought this awesome bouncing toy at Goodwill: $99 at Target, $8.50 at Goodwill.

Made our weekly trek to the zoo (two times one week).

Went to an apple orchard that also had a corn maze, hay ride, playground and more. Super fun!

Jalen handled quality checks.

David turned 31. In lieu of birthday cake he requested chocolate chip cookies and caramel apples. (Love you, Honey!)


Jalen sported his first bow tie. (Thanks Aunt Tiffy.)

Baylie sported some Rapunzel hair.

We went to the Greek festival - it was awesome.

A Greek guitarist jumped on our table to serenade a lady. Baylie still talks about it.

And the biggest news of all....we adopted again.

Meet Simba.


He was a rescue, so we got him when he was only three weeks old. It's been a lot of work to dropper feed him, help him go potty and keep him warm. But he's doing great. Baylie informs me that I'm not the mommy, she's the mommy.

And now for my next computer goal...I'm not going to read any entertainment/gossip news for the month of October. I'm pretty sure this will be harder than the facebook fast.

Monday, September 5, 2011

Blog Break

I love my blog. In fact, I think I love it too much. It does serve a purpose. It’s a great history of our family and provides me with a place to share some of my feelings. Sometimes I feel myself torn between the opinion of my sister who thinks I post way too often and our social worker who thinks I should post at least once a day.

Recently I heard a talk in church where one of our leaders was discussing how much time people spend online these days. He referenced the fact that Satan will never have a body and consequently wants us to learn to enjoy having a “disembodied life.” He talked about how many people are in fact living disembodied lives. There are people who pass up on meeting real flesh and blood people in order to keep commitments to people in a gaming community. I was reminded of the couple who let their baby die while they took care of a virtual baby. I thought of the man whose new bride was upset because her groom was spending all his time with his virtual wife.

I have obviously not taken my online life to such extremes, but I do catch myself thinking about how I’m going to blog about an experience rather than just enjoying the moment itself. Sometimes I catch myself thinking about how I can summarize an event in a witty facebook blurb. Once when videotaping my kids, I wanted to cut the video short so that it would be easy to post. All of a sudden I was struck by the fact that I was filming my kids with the intent to post, rather than in order to preserve a memory for us as a family. I was disappointed in myself. I started to wonder if I was spending more time blogging about spending time with my kids than actually being with them.

Then just recently I’ve had different friends comment about how reading other people’s blogs makes them feel badly about themselves. Not only do we compare ourselves to what we observe others do firsthand, but now we compare ourselves to other people’s blogs where they post all the awesome things they do (and leave out most of the bad stuff).

On top of everything else, tonight I went to a meeting with a member of the local police department who spoke on internet safety. I guess you could say he scared me straight.

With all of this in mind, I’ve decided to make some changes. To start with, I’m going to take a blog break. I’m not going to post on my blog or read any one else’s blog for the remainder of the month of September. When I start posting again, my blog will be private. So if you still want to read it, send me your e-mail. I’m also going to take myself off facebook for the remainder of the month. When I come back to facebook, my friends list will be significantly shorter. I’m reducing it down to only my close family and friends. I figure I can still send messages to anyone else and they can message me.

I know this will be inconvenient for some people and I know it will be hard for me. But I think that for a variety of reasons, it will be a good move for me and my family. I’ll still have my e-mail and cell phone, so I won’t be off the grid entirely. It's amazing how the internet has taken over my life in the past three years!

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Brattonsville, SC

I'm always trying to find new things for our family to do. Since I'm a history lover, the whole family usually ends up doing something that I think will be fun. Sometimes it's not so much fun for the kids who would probably rather just swim.

This time we did something that was awesome (okay, I thought it was awesome). We went to Brattonsville, SC, a historic town where on one side of the street it's set up like the 1700's and on the other side like the 1800's. Most of the buildings are original although some have been moved from nearby locations to this spot. Many stand right where they always have. Some of the scenes from Mel Gibson's "The Patriot" were filmed here. (The home below, which is original to the site, was used in the movie.)

In July, they do a Revolutionary War reinactment and in October, they do one for the Civil War. I really hope to catch one of these.

Loved these split rail fences

Align Center
Original settler's cabin

My little Union soldier

Baylie learns how to card wool and watches the ladies spin it

We got a little school lesson - Baylie and Jalen got to write on a real slate

A cotton gin (for some reason, I thought it would be bigger)

Weaving

Cotton bulb and bloom

Ripe cotton (not sure if "ripe" is the right term)

After the historic visit, we went a few miles down the road to a new children's museum (only $5!). Baylie informed me "This was a much better idea to come here." It was geared to preschoolers - perfect for us. (It was located right next to the site of the first Civil Rights sit in that resulted in actual jail time - perfect for me).

The Music Man

Rapunzel

Trains

Rapunzel, Mother Gothel and Flynn Ryder

It ended up being a perfect day!